Does anyone ever want to socialize with negative people? Complaining and criticizing works for many folks. I hear teachers say many children have turned to anger as their “go-to” in order to get needs met. (Get called out for questionable behavior and scream or holler, and maybe folks will back off.)
This might work at school, sometimes, as teachers often feel powerless to make real change; but it fails to work as adults. We all have encountered those who are in the habit of dealing with anger in an unhealthy way, like ranting as their go-to method in dealing with unhappiness. But as we age, those people become more isolated and lonelier.
I’m cognizant of the attitude of most elders I work with and encounter. They have learned to be who they are, and I adjust and respect them. But, being you means you have to decide to get unstuck, stop pleasing people for the wrong reason or ask for help when you deem it will improve your situation; and if there is a goal, create solid disciplined decisions.
Discipline equals freedom. Life is more intriguing when there is a plan. It opens you up to more options that don’t include anger or frustration. Do you believe that any situation can be changed at any time in your life? It’s never too late to shake off bad habits and take on new ones.
Don’t let the fear of the unknown hold you back. Your body lets you know if it needs a change. Be aware that the shape of your life reveals itself to you. Living well requires focus. Be a wonderful version of yourself, and the world will adjust.
Margaret Wachholz is the campus marketing director at Woodbury Senior Living. In her column, she shares observations and wisdom about aging and senior living in our community.